The wristbands and belongings you see in this museum belong to 

Ibrahim Vuslat Kilcan was 19 years old when he died in the spring of his life. The mechanical parts that you see on the side are the apparatus of the heart support device, which he was connected to in the last three years of his life due to his severe illness.

A report showing that he was 100 per cent disabled, dozens of different reports taken from hospitals, even heart transplantation was not enough for his father to be with him in his last moments. So in the morning after Ibrahim Vuslat Kilcan passed away, justice in Turkey was hardly convinced that the kid was seriously ill and needed his father.

But it was too late; Ibrahim had a crisis and longed for his father when he died. The pain of not seeing him alive for the last time, missing him in just one hour, was left to his father.  Ibrahim Vuslat Kilcan, born in 2000, was diagnosed with heart failure at the end of 2014. Then, a related muscle disease developed. The diagnosis showed that he needed a heart transplant in the long run. While he was receiving treatment in Erzurum, his family arranged things in Ege University to better medical facilities. Meanwhile, after his school was shut down in February 2015, father Irfan Oguz Kilcan, a literature teacher at Aziziye College in Erzurum, decided to move to İzmir for the treatment of 

Ibrahim.

To take care of his son and his treatment, Irfan Kilcan did not get a job.  Ibrahim lived for three years with a heart support device. In February 2018, a suitable heart was found, and a heart transplant was performed.  Ibrahim was the first person with a muscle disorder to have a heart transplant. After the transplantation process, six months adaptation process started. Meanwhile, the patient had to be completely sterile; he received regular care, morale and motivation, and regular physical therapy for muscle disease.

The family’s life turned into a nightmare with an ongoing investigation in Diyarbakir. On April 9, 2018, when father Irfan Kilcan was going to the hospital with his son, police came to his house, took him into custody, and took him to Diyarbakir. With his father leaving,  Ibrahim lost his best friend. Because of his illness, he had not made many friends. His sickness progressed with the despond and stress. He fainted, and his blood pressure hiked. External factors that could trigger a crisis in the adaptation process could be fatal. And they became fatal.

Father Irfan served 14 months in prison. While his trials continued, his son  Ibrahim watched two hearings on his wheelchair. The family repeatedly objected, verbally and in writing. They also brought reports stating that  Ibrahim was in a complicated situation, needed his father, and stayed stress-free with good morale. Every attempt was made to release the father on probation pending a trial, but the court was never convinced. The father, Irfan tells, “My son had come to court twice; the judges saw him personally. We said, “The kid needs support, morale, care and father love”, but these objections were ignored. Disregarded. I asked, ‘do you want the kid to die to understand the emergency of the situation?’

 On May 22, 2019, Ibrahim got worse and was taken to hospital. The hospital gave a report stating “high risk of death”. The family’s lawyer immediately submitted this report to the court, calling the court head personally to ensure that the father could be with the boy in his last moments.

Irfan Oguz Kilcan was released on May 22, afternoon at 5 pm. When he got out, the lawyer explained the situation. He went to İzmir on the first flight, but his son had passed away before he reached.  Ibrahim passed away at 11 o’clock, but his father could reach the hospital at 12:30.  Ibrahim Vuslat was inhumed the next day in Kayseri, his father’s hometown.

Father Irfan Kilcan stayed with his family for two to three months in Izmir, on the condition of not leaving İzmir and weekly two check-ins with police. When the lawyer warned him that as the excuse about his son was no longer valid, he could get arrested in the subsequent trial, Irfan Kilcan decided to leave Turkey.

In the end, father Irfan Kilcan said: “I was in prison in the most difficult time of my kid, in the time frame when he needed his father most, for morale, for care. So he passed away longing for us, and we are longing for him. But, namely, disregarding the severe handicap, the need for intensive care, the fact of a heart transplant; despite all of these were reported in our written and verbal communication, despite seeing the kid in person and all kinds of hospital reports in their hand; makes a man feel crushed.”

Source:

https://tenkilmuseum.com/ibrahim-vuslat-kilcan-passed-away-longing-for-us-and-we-longing-for-him/